Day 110 - 12/30/11 - Friday


HOLIDAY PARTY TIME

Tis the season for work Holiday parties, and that was no different here in Tetovo today!  Starting at 1:30 the staff gathered at the campus restaurant for a cocktail.  This cocktail, like the others I have been to started with a buffet of foods. Soon after that the Rector of SEE-U brought greetings and walked around to each table to say Happy New Year. There were live musicians playing traditional Albanian music. The singer even walked around through the tables while she sang, and people got so into it!  As people started finishing their food, the dancing began! 

The room where the party was
Two of the other people that work at SEE-U with me
The singer
More Dancing!
DANCING!
After a song or so, I joined in with some of my colleagues! They helped me know how to do the steps. The dance was a like a train in the shape of a big circle where everyone joined hands and faces the center. The people that are at the ends of the trains have a white rag in their hands that they use as a prop.  I had so much fun!  I actually participated in 3 different dances throughout the afternoon.  If you are curious what this looks like, you can go to youtube and search for Albanian circle dancing and you should be able to see it.  This was such a fun party. I had such a great time!  

Lesson: Don't let you inhibitions keep you from trying something new!

Outside the party - all of us work at SEE-U

My roommate and I outside the party

Day 106 - 12/26/11 - Monday

The more experiences I have with kids and youth while I am abroad the more I am reminded of how similar ALL kids are! 
Tonight I had the opportunity to go to an exhibition for SEE-U's 10th anniversary celebration.  This particular exhibition was for the public and was held in the House of Culture in Tetovo's city center.  Pictures from the past 10 year, and a slide show were on display.  There were also speakers and I would share more with you about what they shared, but my Albanian is still progressing... :)  This exhibit will actually travel around Macedonia to other cities for publicity.  There was also a traditional Cocktail following. I am noticing that "cocktails" are very common.  It consists of a table of hors d'oeuvres for people to eat.  Similar to a buffet in some ways.  One struggle I have at these is how to eat properly. I think we all struggle with that even in our own cultures, but when you are outside of even what you "know" its tough!  Using your fingers for food here is not common, for example, french fries are eaten with forks, or already on your sandwich. 

The SEE-U exhibition
I also had an invitation to go to concert with my office mate, Suzana. The concert was for her daughter Besa's students.  Besa is a teacher at a private school in Tetovo. The school is called Neting School. It is a school that parents can send their students to in addition to primary school. The students learn about mathematics, technology and many different languages, one being English. The parents pay around 25 euros a month for their children to attend the school.  The program was the Winter program, it was great to see students working together to put on a program- it reminded me of home.  My first sentence of this post was: The more experiences I have with kids and youth while I am abroad the more I am reminded of how similar ALL kids are! I say this because again tonight I was reminded of this!! 

All of the kids singing Jingle Bells

One group reciting poetry

Today I also said "see you soon" or "good-bye for now" to my dear friend Vesna.  She is headed of to the next leg of her life's journey.  I of course wish her the best and am so excited for her!  With that said, this will bring new challenges for me in the new year.  She has been my go-to person for questions about work, for cultural questions, for help knowing where to find things in Tetovo, and most importantly for a confidant.  I will miss her greatly, BUT I am already looking forward to when our paths meet again!  Thank you Vesna!!!

Lesson: My lesson today can be summarized in these two quotes:"We all walk a path of life, the people who matter to you leave footprints on your heart"
"People come into your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime"



Christmas Weekend – Days 103, 104, 105 – 12/23, 12/24, 12/25


The weekend’s festivities began with Lizzie arriving in Tetovo on Friday evening from Bitola.  We went to dinner at Arbi- a tasty Albanian restaurant in the center.  By being in the center we got to see that a Christmas Tree made just of lights had been put up in the city square. Lizzie and I both took pictures in front of it.  We headed back to my dorm to watch a movie and color the picture cards for English Club the next day at the American Corner.  We watched the movie, “Nothing like the Holidays” a Christmas movie neither of us had seen.  Its not one I will be adding to my holiday favorites, but it was fun to see one we had not seen before.  It was off to bed for us so we were ready for the American corner the next day.

Saturday started with Kid’s Club and English Club at the American Corner.  With the Kid’s Club Lizzie and I made Santa hats with them, the kids all looked SO GREAT!  We looked pretty good too :)  We also read a book called, “I Can See Christmas” and the kids colored the books.  For English Club we taught them some English words related to Christmas and then made stockings.  To finish our time together we played Christmas BINGO.  The kids had a good time and so did Lizzie and I.  I was also able to present Michael Forsberg's book The Great Plains to the American Corner Tetovo. 
Lizzie and I with our hats!!
Kid's Club

English Club
Presentation to ACT of The Great Plains by Michael Forsberg

From the corner Lizzie and I headed out to pick up the food items for our Christmas Eve meal, for Christmas Breakfast and Christmas Dinner.  The market was our first stop… we bought: lettuce, spinach, onions, potatoes, lemons, broccoli, carrots, oranges, plums, and zucchini.  We bought enough items that the guy gave us two kiwi and then put an extra pepper into our bag with a smile.  We also got to stop at the cheese store in the market.  We tasted several of the types in hopes of finding something like mozzarella for the caprese bake, creamy cheese for our spinach dip, and a grate-able cheese for our quiches. We found the creamy and the grate-able kind, but tasted some wonderful other kinds too!  Although Cassidy does not eat meat, Lizzie and I still wanted some for our meal so we wet to Mishtore Beni- the butcher.  They were very helpful and so kind.  The butcher even gave us labeled ink pins and a calendar.  The calendar even has pictures of meat for each month!!  Very unique, but very funny and memorable!!  There were other items that we needed to pick up from the grocery store. Vero was closest and with all of the items we had that was the best choice.  We again found all of the items we needed and it was straight to a taxi, walking was out of the question with all of the things we had!

Christmas eve meal:  steak with a tasty reduction sauce, caprese bake, baked onions with bacon, apples, and pears!  I took pictures of course!!!
Caprese Bake
Steak with reduction sauce
Onion bake with apples, pears and bacon 
Following dinner we watched two Christmas classics:  Love Actually and National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.  Lizzie hadn’t seen these “Birdsall Christmas Classics” so it was fun to share with her!

Christmas morning, I woke up to start making our individual quiches.  Cassidy arrived from Skopje.  Over night Santa was able to visit us all the way in Macedonia.  We opened some very small gifts to each other.. including some kinder eggs.  I figured what is Christmas without some toys.  At home my family gives each other little toy items, so this was a good memory to share with Cassidy and Lizzie.  Cassidy brought us some handmade cinnamon soap and a snowman cookie from the International Woman’s Bizzare.  Our breakfast of quiche and fruit turned out VERY yummy!!!
Christmas morning!!!

Santa made it all the way to see us in Macedonia :)
Lizzie and her gifts

Cassidy opening her gifts

OUR TOYS!!!!

Breakfast :)

The afternoon was spent talking, sharing memories and watching “The Santa Clause”.   I would be lying if I said the mood was all joyous.  It was hard for each of us at varying degrees to be away from our loved ones and friends, as well as the traditions that we each have during the holiday season.  I know I will treasure the memory that I will take from this Christmas, but living in the moment of it was a bit hard.

Dinner was an event that should be shared!  We created quite the spread:  baked squash, curry zucchini, potato pancakes, spinach meatballs, spinach dip, and raspberry/lemon cake!  Here is the table:
DINNER
Our decorations were minimal, but we did have the Holmes Hedgehog, inflatable Santa, and our little Christmas tree. 
Merry Christmas to all!
Lesson: Christmas is to remember the birth of Jesus, but when you aren’t with the people you love, and surrounded with the traditions, it just feels different.  Happy Birthday Baby Jesus!  

Day 101, Day 102 - Wednesday 12/21/11 and Thursday 12/22/11

Wednesday brought Learning English Through Games club at the American Corner. It was a fairly small group, but it was a lot of fun and we had a really great time playing the card game "Golf".  When leaving the Corner, I snapped a shot of Tetovo's City Center. The lights are all so beautiful.  As the days have passed I have learned more about the celebrations for this community and culture.  Christmas trees and Santa are prevalent here.  A Christmas Tree is called a New Year Tree, and Santa visits on New Year's to bring small gifts.  Christmas to me is a religious holiday, but it is celebrated in this area as well as more of a secular holiday.  It has been comforting to see lights and decorations around.  I have to say, I knew the holidays would be hard emotionally.  Thanksgiving was the first, and I proved that I can have a good time and make memories that I will treasure in my future.  Christmas I know will be the same, I will make wonderful new memories with Lizzie and Cassidy, but I have been very nostalgic about the traditions at home and how much they mean to me.  
  
Tetovo's City Center

Thursday SEE-U hosted the Deputy Prime Minister, Musa Xhaferi, who participated in the Creation of the Ohrid Framework Agreement. This agreement was created in 2001 to provide equality in Macedonia for all ethnic groups.  The agreement was a peace deal signed by both the government of Macedonia and Albanian representatives.  This agreement is what ended the 2001 conflict in Macedonia.  This year is the 10th anniversary of that agreement.  Much has been published about the OFA, and it has been compiled into a 10year Anniversary book, it includes where Macedonia is today in regards to the framework and the steps they have been taking in this country over the past 10 years. Each person who attended today received a copy of the OFA.  I will be bringing it back to the US with me. So if this is something you are interested in knowing more about, I will loan it out!  I also received copies in Albanian and Macedonian. Here are some pictures of the event:

Deputy Prime Minister - Musa Xhaferi


Press Conference after his talk with the Rector of SEE-U

I do have to also share that there was more snow today- some of it even stuck to the ground.  It may not snow this weekend, on Christmas, but the mountains will be white for Christmas!  Here are some pictures of what I see :)  

 
Out my front door




From the parking lot


Enjoying the snow!

Also out my front door

To the north



Lesson: The time it takes to listen to the opinions and feelings of an individual or group is time well spent.



Day 100 - 12/20/11 - Tuesday

Time is a strange thing. It stays the same, 60 seconds in a min, 60 min in an hour, 24 hours in a day. But even though this is always true, time changes.  For me 60 seconds of standing is no problem, but 60 seconds of holding my breath might be impossible.  5 hours spent with people you care about goes quickly, but 5 hours of driving alone can feel like an eternity.  Yet the same amount of time has passed for each.

Today is my 100th day in Macedonia.  I can say that during these 100 days, time has gone by fast, and it has gone by slow.  But no matter what the day to day or hour to hour felt like, I can't believe it has been 100 days.  100 days ago, I left my mom and dad at the airport in Lincoln. 100 days ago I left the home and comforts I knew.  But it has only been 100 days of getting to know people. Only 100 days of learning a new culture. Time is a strange thing!

I will not only remember this day because it is my 100th day in Macedonia, but also because it is the first day it has really snowed here!  There have been snow capped mountain tops, as I have shared. But today it fell from the sky here in town, and the mountain sides have some snow now too.  The snow does not go all the way down the mountain, but it is still pretty amazing.  The forecast has been for snow before, but it always fails to show, or turns to rain... not today.  What a great day to remember!
Snow coming down - out my office window
The mountain side
Another picture of the mountain side

Here's to 100 days of a new culture, new people, new friends, and an amazing adventure... now I look forward to what the next 169 have to bring!

Day 97 Saturday 12/17/11


Another first today- I finally went to the main Green Market in Tetovo.  I have been to the green markets in Bitola, 2 in Skopje, and the Thursday market in Tetovo, but this was the first time to get to the main market!  This market runs everyday and throughout the whole year.  It was like the others I have been to, a ginormous variety of items, tea sets, spices, vegetables, kitchenware, cheese, meats, clothes, fruits, shoes, electronics, beans, rice, and more! I was even able to speak some Albanian to the people to get my wants communicated! The only part I would change about it, is the distance from my place :)

This wasn’t my only adventure today, Cassidy came to town to go back to the tailor to try on her 5 piece suit, and I went with her.  She tried things on first, and then we went to coffee with the tailor. He speaks English enough for us to have good conversations.  It was another interaction of people to people and of course Cassidy and I learned more about the country and culture.  Today we spoke about how Macedonia handles dignitaries that visit the country.  In my time here I have experienced a few different international dignitaries coming to the country- as the tailor explained and we have experienced, daily life is interrupted when a dignitary is in town.  We have seen helicopters, internet shut downs, phone service shut off, and roads closed. Like my other interactions, this two was a memorable conversation.

From the tailor, Cassidy and I ventured through Tetovo and finding things we couldn’t live without, well mostly that I couldn’t live without, but Cassidy participated some too!   We also tried a new restaurant called Arbi, it was very tasty!  It was great to have Cassidy in Tetovo so we could try out a new restaurant.  It was a great Saturday, my only complaint would be the sore hands from carrying all of the bags back to my dorm!

Here are some of my finds:
The goods!

SANTA!!


Christmas plates for next weekend's meal
A scale for now weighing me now, and weighing suitcases later

a new type of all purpose cleaner

My Christmas tree!


Lesson: Remember to put yourself in other people’s shoes, look at things from another person’s perspective.

Day 95 Thursday - 12/15/11 Day 96 Friday 12/16/11


Thursday and still no sun around here- it has been foggy for what seems weeks... but I know it has only been days. It is kind of strange, the sky is SO white, that I don't even realize that there is cloud coverage until I realize that I can not see the mountains AT ALL!  It is a bit of a strange feeling...

But Friday when I woke up I was happily surprised- I was able to see the mountains over the tops of my window coverings in my bed room. Snow covered mountain tops, and clear skies!  How absolutely beautiful! I have to admit, it had been so many days, I first took a double take at my view not sure what it was at first, and then I realized, oh its just the mountains you have been missing! It was quite a wonderful surprise!

The Golden Globe nominations came out, and as usual I had not seen many or any of the nominated movies. I decided this was a great activity for a Friday night!  I walked to Midpoint to get some dinner where they helped me practice my Albanian!! Then back to campus to load some movies on my computer.  Pizza, CocoCola Light, and a few good movies- a great end to a VERY busy week!

Lesson:  Look for the small joys in life, they can bring you the greatest happiness.

Day 95 Wednesday 12/14/11

 Happy Birthday to an amazing woman, 
my mom!!!





Skopje City lights
Skopje City Lights


Tetovo is a mostly Albanian community (as many of you know), this means that most people are Muslims.  Skopje has more orthodox residents and has started putting up Christmas lights and decorations. I have heard there will be a Christmas Tree too.

Knowing my community I was not surprised that the same had not happened in Tetovo.  Well that started to change this week… There has been a Christmas Tree put up in the Language Center at the University!  I took a picture because I was delighted to see a Christmas tree!  Then on our way to the gym, we saw that they were also putting up decorations on the light posts throughout the city.  I have to admit, I have not been feeling like it is the Christmas season, I have started listening to Christmas music at work. I also have been sharing favorites with my family.  Although this is all true, I haven’t felt the Christmas spirit.  Getting to see lights around me had changed that some.  It does not make it feel the exact same, but it does fill me with a bit of cheer.

Language Center at SEE-U

Main street in Tetovo
In Tetovo
Tetovo
I did receive a BIG stack of letters today.  Macedonian post is not something you can count on being the same each time you mail something.  These letters and newspapers from home are so very simple, but they mean so much!  I decided I needed to get busy decorating my wall with some of the contents from the newspapers- don't worry I read them before cutting them into pieces!
GO BIG RED

My newest artwork- K. Apking

My newest artwork- K. Apking






Lesson: What makes Christmas? I am not answering this one, because I have learned it is something different for everyone!